anger management

Defining Forgiveness For Anger Healing But before we go too far talking about forgiveness, it is important to clarify what it is that we are talking about, what we mean when we use the word “forgiveness”–and what we don’t. In other words, defining forgiveness helps us do it. Forgiveness helps marriage counselors restore relationships. Forgiveness…

The Importance of Letting Go Anger To really control your anger in the long run, you absolutely must learn how to let it go. Letting go of your anger is so important that I will go as far as to say this: if you don’t learn how to let go of your anger, you will…

Blaming Others: Becoming The Victim One of the biggest dangers of falling into these trap is that you become the victim. Everyone else is ruining your life. It’s not your fault–they are doing this to you. You are the poor, innocent one who is being taken advantage of. They are making it miserable for you….

Anger Recovery Barriers and Obstacles Often those that struggle the most with anger also struggle with taking full responsibility for their anger. Here are four ways that you may be avoiding taking full responsibility for your anger and being unsuccessful in anger recovery.

Develop Anger Awareness Imagine you are speeding down the road and you hear a beep. You look up and notice that your radar detector is flashing. This should tell you three things. There is potential problem ahead. You should slow down. You need to take action right away. When your radar detector goes off it…

Blaming Others Obstacle Blaming is an obstacle to successful anger management progress. If you want to control your anger, blaming is one of your enemies and you will need to stop blaming at all costs. If you continue to blame others for your anger, it will get in the way of your progress and your…

Are You A Stuck Anger Management Client? Whenever I see a client who is not making progress, I ask them a simple question, “Are you working the steps?” Almost 100% of the time the answer I hear back is, “no.” These clients want to improve but they are what I call Stuck Anger Management Clients….

Taking Responsibility For Your Anger The truth is that you are responsible for your actions no matter what anyone else does or says. It may be true that you were abused as a child. You may have experienced all kings of horrible things, from emotional to physical to sexual abuse. Please understand that I am…

Anger Management Confrontation: Mean & Soft Some people have a patter of using mean and soft confrontation for their anger management. This is the worst combination. These people yell and scream and lost their temper. They start their confrontations with explosive anger. But then later they give in and get walked on. Many relationship therapists working…